He appeared briefly pleased, but it didn't seem like he wanted to engage in my conversation. He always seemed to be engrossed in his work, or panicking about his deadlines. I hadn't had many exchanges with this colleague, other than when attending some of the same team meetings. I felt like she was genuinely happy that my hard work had been recognized and rewarded.Īnother co-worker's reaction was, "That's good," before immediately turning back to his computer and continuing with what he was doing. She'd mentored me when I first joined the team, had helped me to get to grips with the job, and had always been on call if I ever needed any help. Her response was active-constructive. "That's amazing! I'm so pleased for you! Let's go for a drink at lunch!" was one of my colleague's responses. I was promoted once, and I was delighted! I'd been in the team a while and had worked hard. I've experienced all of these first-hand when sharing good news. Research by Shelly Gable, identified four possible types of response: active-constructive, passive-constructive, active-destructive, and passive-destructive. The more you share your news, the more vivid and memorable it becomes. What you don't always think about, though, is how other people are going to react to it and how their reactions will effect you. Researcher, Christopher Langston, refers to the sharing of good news as "capitalization," where your feelings of positivity are intensified each time you do it. When you get some good news, of course you want to shout it from the rooftops! You're brimming with excitement, bursting with pride, and looking for someone to share it with.
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